Reading With My Daughter: We Are All Made of Molecules by Susin Nielsen

13330305A while ago I wrote about reading The Reluctant Journal of Henry K. Larsen with my son. It was astonishingly good. We Are All Made of Molecules is Susin Nielsen’s most recent book. I borrowed it from the library when my daughter had the flu; I thought she might like a few extra books to read while she recuperated.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAWe Are All Made of Molecules, is a story that tells a very clear message: thatΒ we are all made of molecules. We are the same, we all matter, we all deserve to be treated equally and with respect. And, not only do we need to know this, we need to act on it.

The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it. [Albert Einstein]

Stewart (a young 13) is academically gifted, but not socially. And he knows this. He is very aware that he is an easy target. Fortunately, he has had parents who love and support him and this has given him a confidence that he will need. Then his mother dies and he and his father have to figure out how to live without her.

… just because you feel sad sometimes, doesn’t mean that you can’t also be happy.

Stewart’s father, Leonard, eventually starts seeing Caroline, and they end up moving in with Caroline and her daughter, Ashley.

23346647Ashley is 14, her parents have just divorced because her father has announced that he is gay. She is at the top of the social ladder at school and is very concerned that she stay there. At all costs. She’s nasty to her parents, she’s mean to her friends, and she’s awful to her new step-brother Stewart. He embarrasses her. She is also ashamed of the fact that her father is gay, even though she had never before thought of herself as homophobic. She tries to keep this fact from her friends, and her new boyfriend, Jared.

Jared is where things get ugly. And intense – the word my daughter uses to describe the mounting tension as Ashley’s determination to stay popular escalates.

He’s got psycho eyes. You know, like he’s kind of dead inside. Like he’s constantly trying to figure out how a normal person would act.

This book explores themes and situations that many kids are facing all the time (not mine, though. Never mine). And it doesn’t shy away from the terrifying reality of the internet. Bullying, homophobia, sexual assault, cyber-bullying, and the importance of consent. As was the case in The Reluctant Journal of Henry K. Larsen, a powerful book about the consequences of bullying, Nielsen writes about these issues with insight and humour. In fact, it was hard for me to imagine that the story could get as intense as my daughter ensured me that it would, because of Nielsen’s light touch. For example, Ashley is talented in some ways, but not in others, and she is continuously using the wrong words; “joie de beaver”, “high school is a doggy-dog world”, “taken for granite”. She also is forever forgetting the name of Stewart’s cat, Schrodinger, and instead calls him Shopping Cart, Shoe Box, Shoo-fly, etc.

Some reviewers on Goodreads don’t like that Ashley comes off as dumb, but why not? when the message of the book is that everyone belongs despite our differences. Some complain that Ashley and Stewart seem too young for their age, but I don’t agree. 14 and 13 is young (so young!), which is why life at that age can be so hard (and scary) at times.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAshley has to make some hard decisions, and come to discover some truths about herself that she may not like. Stewart is there to help her (whether she likes it or not), while dealing with his own challenges of starting a new school and fitting in with a new family, while still grieving for his mother. Stewart is an exceptional kid.

As I was reading this book, I told my daughter that I couldn’t believe that Ashley could possibly change all that much by the end of the book. She was so unlikeable and the book was too short for that kind of transformation. But I should have had as much faith in Nielsen as she has in kids and what they are capable of. I encourage you to read this and see for yourself why my daughter and I both give this book a ‘thumb’s up’. (And now I’m hoping that she will be able to avoid making all the same mistakes that Ashley made. That’s not too much to ask, is it?)


34 thoughts on “Reading With My Daughter: We Are All Made of Molecules by Susin Nielsen

    • Naomi says:

      We read this separately. I’ve been curious about this book, but have so many of my own from the library, so I wanted her to read it first and let me know if I should read it, too. Good call on her part. (I’m also partly curious to know how well she knows me, book-wise).

  1. Read Diverse Books says:

    Your children are lucky to have you as a mother

    What a great post and review. This book sounds both fun and educational, and it looks like it could lead to valuable conversations about difficult or important topics.
    I also appreciate the science of the title as well — yes, we are all technically made of the molecules of matter created so many years ago!

    • Naomi says:

      Stewart’s the one who came up with the molecule theory after his mother died. He figured her molecules were still around, which helped him cope with his grief.
      My daughter clams up when it comes to serious discussions (the discussion become very one-sided) – but all the more reason for her to read the good books (and for her to know that I read them, too)!

  2. Shannon @ River City Reading says:

    I love that you two read this together! Such an interesting point about the way they characters were portrayed – I think sometimes YA makes people think 13 year olds act much older than they really are. Did your daughter think they came off seeming young?

    • Naomi says:

      I asked my daughter what she thought, and she did think they came off sounding too young for their age. But, she is almost 15 herself, so I can see why she would think that (they feel older than they are at that age). Also, Ashley (the character in the book) does sound younger than my daughter. There is such a wide variation in emotional maturity at that age. These are things my daughter wouldn’t necessarily know. The other thing is, the characters in the book are talking to the reader like they would talk to their diaries – without a filter of any kind. All this to say that I still don’t think the characters sound too young for their age. But, it’s interesting that my daughter did, even though she still loved the book. πŸ™‚

    • Naomi says:

      It doesn’t feel like that when you’re reading it, because all these issues get all mixed up together – bullying, sexual assault, and consent all go hand-in-hand. And the homophobia and bullying also do, etc. But, when you pick it apart to describe it, it does sound like a lot!

      • whatmeread says:

        Yeah, I had a comment from a reader the other day about how she dislikes modern fiction because of all the issues and hot topics it seems as if it is trying to cover, and that made me think of it. It does seem as if some authors are taking on those issues because they think their books are more likely to be published or read. I have to admit to getting tired of certain topics sometimes, but a lot depends on how they are handled.

      • Naomi says:

        That’s true. I have been been pleasantly surprised with both of these books by Susin Nielsen. However, I don’t read a lot of YA, so maybe someone who does will find they’re the same as everything else out there. This is the first book I’ve read that deals with putting photos of someone on the internet without their consent, which is huge for kids to learn about these days (one of my biggest fears, for sure).

  3. The Paperback Princess says:

    You know, this book had been on my radar but I never really knew what it was about, so I forgot about it. This sounds kind of great and I love that you read it with your daughter so you could both talk about it!

    • Naomi says:

      Despite reading a couple of reviews about it when it first came out, I still didn’t really know what it was about when I read it. I was pleasantly surprised that it got into some pretty serious issues! At first, I wondered where it was going, but then suddenly it was there.

  4. TJ @ MyBookStrings says:

    I applaud you for reading with your kids, though when I first saw the title I was expecting something scientific. I am glad that I don’t have to deal with all of these issues just yet.

    • Naomi says:

      Scientific would have been good, too, but my daughter probably wouldn’t have wanted to read it. πŸ™‚
      Yes, definitely take advantage of their innocence for as long as you can!

  5. Brian says:

    What a great recommendation. I would have enjoyed reading this with my boys when they were young. Please continue sharing your family reading; I for one love it.

  6. Grab the Lapels says:

    Wow, I don’t remember reading any books like this when I was a kid. It was all Sweet Valley Twins (there were no gay people in sunny California, apparently). If someone’s parents were thinking about getting divorced, it was the biggest, most humiliating scandal ever. In college, for a children’s lit course, I read Anastasia Krupnik and was surprised that her dad talked to her about having loved another woman before her mother, and that they slept together. I remember having my mind blown by this–and I was in grad school. Until that class, I didn’t think a whole lot about books for children and adolescents actually reflecting what they experience, though of course it is vitally important. That’s why I was sad when I heard that one school tried to ban the graphic novel This One Summer by Jillian and Mariko Tamaki. Apparently, a 3rd grader read it and the parents got upset. However, the book is clearly for adolescents, not 8 year olds.

    • Naomi says:

      Great review! My daughter read This One Summer last year some time – I should have read it when she did, but maybe I’ll try getting it out of the library again for myself!

      One thing I’m really liking about Susin Nielsen’s books are how current her stories are. Learning the seriousness of posting unwanted photos on the internet is huge for kids these days, and it’s the first I’ve read about it. I also think my daughter is going to take the message more seriously coming from a book than coming from me (unfortunate, but true!).

  7. Carolyn O says:

    I too love that you read this with your daughter and included her thoughts in your review! I read about one YA book a year—I think it’s because I’m terrified (for my son) of what “kids these days” have to face with the ubiquity of our online social lives.

    • Naomi says:

      It *is* terrifying. But you still have some time before it hits!
      I don’t read a lot of YA, because I just don’t usually enjoy it as much. It makes a difference when I can read it with one of the kids. Sometimes, though, I feel like I have to drag her opinions out of her. When I start asking her questions about it, I think she feels like I’m testing her. I have discovered that she is more forth-coming when we talk about the book in the middle of reading it rather than after we are both done. But it’s hard to know exactly what to ask until we’re done. Sigh. πŸ™‚

  8. bookskeptic says:

    It’s fantastic that your read with your daughter and then discuss books! It must be great for her to know she recommended a book to you and you liked it, and you could both share your thoughts.

  9. Deepika Ramesh says:

    It’s so heartwarming to learn that you read with your children, Naomi. You inspire me. πŸ™‚ And, the book sounds wonderful.

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